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Our kids get to grow up in the most culturally diverse family I know…They get American culture, Chinese culture, and Ethiopian culture. I visited my grandmother last weekend and she told us their names in Cantonese and also wrote out their names in Chinese characters (shown above – next to bamboo drawings she made) (She’s really good at calligraphy).  While we were in Ethiopia we went to a Korean restaurant, and Asher grabbed a pair of chop sticks (having never seen them before in his life) as soon as he saw me doing it and started eating with them.  I loved it; I just thought, “Yup, that’s my boy.”

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Asher Tan= American Name

Gebretsadik = Amharic Name

Chun A’chi = Cantonese Name

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Levi Tan = American Name

Mezekr = Amharic Name

Chun Lee Mae =Cantonese Name

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I just think that’s so amazing.  Asher and Levi will doubtlessly be confused at times, but I hope and pray the ability to draw from so many cultures will be a blessing, rather than a curse overall. I think it’s pretty awesome.  Without a doubt there will be struggles, identity issues, and confusion, but oh boy, will they ever be unique!  Imagine what perspectives and point of views they will have as adults.  Plus, I am enjoying trail blazing multicultural/multi-ethnic families. It’s a cool little mini-picture of the Kingdom of God in our family 🙂
 -Dave

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So our friends in Ethiopia got to visit Asher and Levi earlier this week, and sent us some pictures ! It makes our hearts happy to see that they are still doing well in the orphanage!

In other news we are entering the final stages of our adoption! With much prayer, we hope to have them home soon! Our adoption case has been submitted to the US Embassy for final investigation and final approval! Ethiopia and our adoption agency are done with all the paperwork; now it’s in the US Embassy’s hand.

We are hoping for a message from the US Embassy in the next few days to confirm our case is under review. There should not be any irregularities or suspicions or errors so we are praying hard it goes through without a hitch! After the US Embassy is done reviewing/investigating, we will get the approval to go pick them up and bring them home!!

We hope to hear from the US Embassy in 2 to 4 weeks to give us a travel date to go pick our boys up!

We will update you as we find out!

Thank you all so much for your prayers and your support through this process!

-Dave & Mica



Waiting room

 

The most common question we have been asked and ask ourselves since our return is, “How are you doing with you here and your kids there?” This question fills my mind daily and the answer changes just about as frequently. We have been so grateful for friends and family that have truly and frequently taken the time to pray with and for us, lend an ear, let me cry on their shoulder, and simply just asked us “HOW ARE YOU?” That has meant more to me than words could express. For me this process…this waiting has taught me a lot already.

When I think about the fact that as children of Christ we have been adopted, we rarely talk about, think about, or even process how that must be for God to WAIT for us to come to him in our lives. Whether we are 5, 10, 20, or 50 when we approach God and allow HIM into our lives, he waits for us. He created us, loved us before we we’re born, and desires to adopt us from the very beginning but even the creator of the universe waits for us. True LOVE waits. And through this process I have truly seen how it is the waiting that in the oddest way makes adoption have this very unique beauty woven into its story. I have learned in my life we only wait on things that really matter to us. We only are willing to go through the wringer for something that has great value. We only adopt something as our own when we truly see life existing with it. God waits for us so it should be no surprise to me that we would wait for these boys.

In this waiting I have cried, prayed, smiled, and yearned for these boys more than ever before. In the 17 years I waited just to meet them God prepared me for that first encounter. No words could describe the moment we met except to say God’s hand was in that first encounter. Joy was abundant and peace like I have never known. It is this memory, so fresh in my head and in pictures, that gives me courage and encouragement to know that this next encounter….after more waiting, refinement, and growth in love and depth of love, will be all the more glorious.

I sat last night curled in a ball with Dave’s arms around me weeping. My favorite song “Be Still” by The Fray played on my phone and very much was God’s loving voice singing straight to my heart. I love these boys. I love them so much it hurts. And as sad as that sounds to write itis beautiful. How beautiful that we can love something so deeply. How beautiful that I get to have these boys as a gift from the very one who adopted me and taught me how to love… and now I get to give the same thing back to two beautiful creations. And in this time all I have and know is to be still with God and embrace every moment of HIS comfort and love.

Thank you friends and family for journeying with us. I am sure I will need many distractions, shoulders, ears, and tissues…We NEED you and we appreciate you! Know that as hard as this journey is I am so grateful for this gift in its entirety….because all of this…..ALL OF IT (even the waiting) led me to them. That is beautiful.

Below are these beautiful Lyrics of encouragement that I mentioned above. I hope they resonate with each of you in your own way as well!

Be still and know that I’m with you
Be still and know that I am here
Be still and know that I’m with you
Be still, be still, and know

When darkness comes upon you
And colors you with fear and shame
Be still and know that I’m with you
And I will say your name

If terror falls upon your bed
And sleep no longer comes
Remember all the words I said
Be still, be still, and know

And when you go through the valley
And the shadow comes down from the hill
If morning never comes to be
Be still, be still, be still

If you forget the way to go
And lose where you came from
If no one is standing beside you
Be still and know I am

Be still and know that I’m with you
Be still and know I am


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We’re back from our Ethiopian court date! Legally Asher and Levi are ours and they are Tan’s, according to the Ethiopian Court! It was heartbreaking but we had to leave them in Ethiopia and can come back to pick them in 1 to 3 months after they clear the US Embassy, and get US citizenship, US Passports and get medically cleared by US Embassy doctors. After that they will give us the word and we will go pick them up!

It’s hard to sum up the trip, but we will try! First, Asher (approximately 3 years old) is wearing 12 month clothes! He is so tiny! Levi (11 months old) is wearing 6 to 9 month old clothes. Both are small, but they are very happy kids!  They definitely know they are brothers, and they like to spend time together, and Asher likes to take care of Levi! It’s too cute!

Asher is a ball of energy. He is a non-stop play till you drop kid. He sings and dances all the time. When we first got to the orphanage they told him we were adopting them and he ran up, jumped into our arms, and gave us kisses. We were so happy to see him attach to us very quickly. He quickly started calling us Papa and Mama. He called Dave “Abba”, which is Ethiopian (and Hebrew) for “daddy.”

Levi is a very happy and easy going baby. He scoots on his belly but he doesn’t crawl yet. But he can pick himself up and stand very well.  He is still a formula only baby.  But after a week with us, both Levi and Asher gained three pounds each!  It’s amazing what food, not from an orphanage, will do for these kids!!

Court went very well, thankfully. All of the paperwork was in order and it went well, and as of Friday June 14th, we officially and legally adopted Asher and Levi Tan!  We are just waiting on the embassy to pick them up.

So please pray for us as we wait and prepare!   We are trying to get the last of the things we need to be 100% ready to bring them home!  It’s really tough for us, and for them back in Ethiopia, coming together as a family, and then having to be apart for the next few months! Our hearts are with our children back in Ethiopia. Please pray for us as we wait to bring them home, which is hard. Pray for them to stay healthy and happy until we can pick them up!

-Dave & Mica